The attack.

 

The sun was out this morning and we had a lovely play with a classmate on the field before training class started. Then we entered the training pen and Cooper worked hard with his heel walking, sits, stays and leaves. He was progressing so well! It was a lovely relaxed class, before it all went horribly wrong...

The dogs, all of whom knew each other, were invited by the instructor to play off lead with balls in the grassed enclosure. A large lurcher, who had been attending classes muzzled and clearly giving his owner a tough time, given his barking and aggressive lunging towards other dogs at each session, saw me throw a ball for Cooper, then without hesitation, attacked him. He was off lead and unmuzzled on the say so of the instructor; an aggressive, reactive dog, with a ball obsession. When he saw me throw a ball for Cooper, he ran at speed from behind me and took my boy to the ground by pinning him with his jaw at Cooper's throat. Cooper is a friendly, gentle lad and had not seen him coming, there was no challenge, no warning. The other dog was much larger and far more powerful and he meant harm. Cooper didn't have a chance to fight back. To hear my boy screaming in pain and see his eyes bulging in terror was a living nightmare I can barely describe and will never forget. I truly thought he was about to be killed by the lurcher and felt utterly helpless. Thankfully, a male owner with fast presence of mind, managed to force his hand between the lurcher's jaw and Cooper's throat... but the lurcher still didn't release, clamping hard on the man's hand, so I grabbed his tail and yanked as hard as I could several times from behind. Somehow the attacking dog's grip loosened for a split second, just enough for Cooper to scrape free. I will be forever grateful to the other owner, a man who saved Cooper's life by redirecting the bite onto his own hand. How he managed it I will never know but he did and had he not, I really don't think Cooper would be alive today. It was a full dog attack, with Cooper competely unable to defend himself. It was not a bite-inhibited fight between two dogs.

Neither of the class instructors, a husband and wife 'team', helped free Cooper. I don't know what they were doing at the time. I left the class and the owner who helped me, saw us to the car park, then kindly checked Cooper over thoroughly for injury. We couldn't see any damage at the time but at home I found a puncture mark on his neck. The other owner excused himself to wash his hands, at which point the class instructor came to check on me and Cooper. We spoke briefly, then I noticed the owner who had so selflessly helped us, leaving the carpark with his hand wrapped because it was bleeding... he didn't want to worry me and returned to check on his wife and their dog. I excused myself and took Cooper home, then contacted them the next day and was told his hand injury was very sore and he had intervened because he wasn't going to see Cooper hurt.

Cooper and I were both in shock after the attack and I just wanted to take him home to safety. I decided to contact the instructor the following day to give me time to process what had happened. The next day I wrote and politely asked for risk assessments and class reviews to be put in place, as it occurred to me that the lurcher's owner had been told to take off the muzzle and lead by the instructor, which had placed every handler and their dog, at risk that day. It also occurred to me that had it been a smaller dog who was attacked, the outcome would have been very different. It also occurred to me that I have witnessed children attending that class in the enclosure too, although not on that particular day. It also occurred to me that to empty a bag of balls into a small enclosure full of dogs is utter stupidity for any dog obedience instructor and I wish I had never trusted her judgment.... but that's what we do in class isn't it? Even when adult, as pupils, we trust our teachers to make safe decisions for his, or her, class.  Sadly, our dog training instructor made a poor judgment based on her own ego that day, rather than on factual dog behaviour... and that judgment cost one of her clients a badly bitten hand and almost cost me my sweet-natured, loving, funny, friendly boy, Cooper. 

Needless to say, I will not be returning to this class. I am not sure what will be next for Cooper's training in terms of classes and may decide to continue training him independently instead. Despite many years of training, I am nervous to attend another class. I don't ever want to be put in a situation like this again and don't ever want to be responsible for putting my dogs into a class where their safety isn't placed above the class instructor's ego. 

To summarise:I subsequently received no reassurrance from our class instructor that her classes would be reviewed for the purpose of safety. A fudged post describing the lurcher attack as 'a scuffle over a ball' and 'no one was hurt', was posted on her social media for all members of her classes to read. When I politely commented on the facts of what had happened, ie., it was not a bite-inhibited fight, it was a serious attack causing a bite injury to another owner, I was promptly blocked both from the group and from being able to message the instructor further. I am writing this post, both to process the trauma of what happened but also as a warning to other dog owners to think carefully about which dog training class they book and to research dog training instructors carefully, keeping in mind they are unregulated as a body of 'professionals'. There are excellent, well educated trainers available, seek them out and wait for a space in their class if there is a waiting list. Please don't fall into the trap I fell into, of just booking something local because it was handy.

I have always advocated dog training classes but I am going to caveat here by saying please, please, please, check the credentials of your trainer. Dog training classes are unregulated, so research thoroughly, watch how classes are run if possible, then take recommendations where possible from established handlers, those owners who understand what dog training in class entails, rather than from first time puppy owners. A well run training class is a joy to participate in but there are always risks... and risks must be managed expertly to keep owners, dogs and trainers as safe as possible in class. For new owners still finding your way into training classes, I know it can be difficult to choose the safest, most beneficial training scenario, so please ask for advice and recommendations from other owners, before making a decision. All classes have ups and downs and some dogs can of course be unpredictable, but a well managed class should be a safe space and any responsible trainer will do all they can to ensure problems are dealt with safely and honestly. As owners we have to place great trust in our dog training instructors, so we need to know that our trust is valued and respected for the safety of our dogs. Safety in class should always be any instructor's first priority.

Since Cooper's attack, I have received this advice from an unrelated dog trainer, so am passing it on case it helps anyone who might be looking for a dog trainer:

 I would always recommend choosing someone on the ABTC register https://abtc.org.uk/practitioners/.

To be on the register, trainers have to complete both a theory and practical assessment, complete regular CPD and have risk assessments and insurance in place. Members also have to comply with their code of conduct, which include standards of professional conduct and you can raise any concerns through their membership organisation.

Dog Years

 

Dog Years

I brought Polly home from her breeder at just seven weeks of age, an armful of beautiful chunky puppy, wriggly and playful but from day one, determined to enjoy life her own sweet way. She was my first Golden Retriever and I remember the breeder advising me not to let her dictate our route on walks, a trait familiar to most Golden owners!

In fact, Polly was a lesson in everything I needed to learn about owning a Golden Retriever. She was a sturdy showgirl and from the very first day, it became clear she knew her own mind. We signed up for obedience classes when Polly was six months old. Six months with my girl had shown me I was in need of help if my big bolshy dog was ever to become a polite citizen. In class, it was usually Polly who decided it was more fun to run free rather than sit and stay, gleefully reminding me (not to mention the entire class!) of my dog handling inadequacies... but we perserved. Out of class she taught me how important recall training would be to us both, usually by racing to say hello to a fellow dog, cyclist, leaf... with me in hot pursuit!  Thankfully, slowly but surely, my bossy big girl matured into a dog admired by other owners, a dog I could walk with and be extremely proud of. She learned lead skills, tricks, recalls, a dictionary of verbal cues and hand signals, how to behave in crowds, cafes, town centres, even on trains, steps and narrow cliff paths... and I learned that my girl was the most loyal and amazingly clever dog. I also learned that the stubborn streak, so evident on our very first day together, is part of Polly's inherent nature, so something to work with, rather than fight against.

We have walked many, many miles together through all weathers over the years and shared all manner of adventures. I feel privileged to have had such a loyal, unquestioning friend by my side to navigate life with. Now that Polly is growing older, I am aware of the frailties that come with age. Our walks have become shorter, slower and sometimes, even a little wobbly and stairs will be a joint effort between Polly and myself, for as long as she still wants to climb them at night to be with me. Twelve years in dog years makes Polly eight-four years old in human terms, so we live in the moment. I am grateful for sunshine walks and each day that we are able to step out, side by side.

Happiest of Big Birthdays to you my beautiful Big Bird. xxx

Training Cooper: A fresh approach

 

A school social walk. 

Cooper is 2nd from the left and had a great time!

It has been quite a while since I last took a dog training class...

Last year, I started Cooper at the Real Life Training classes I used to take with Polly and Betty but I think it was much too soon for him after the stress of being rehomed. He was so overly stimulated by classes, I found it very almost impossible to achieve any focus from him. Also, lead pulling was extreme, to say the least, making it very difficult physically to work with him, as he is so strong. So, I took the decision to withdraw him from group work for a while and work with him quietly with Polly and Betty locally in more familiar environments, before contemplating any further classes.

Time is a great healer as they say and giving Cooper time, consistency and familiarity with me has worked wonders in helping him settle, so this year, I decided to try classes again. Rather than the real life training I did with the girls before, I opted to start with a small local class that trains outdoors on the same field each week as I thought that might be something he could cope with ... and I am delighted to say, Cooper has settled in beautifully and is doing really well! After just five classes, I have been able to ditch his Halti head-harness and can now train him on his 'Perfect fit' harness and off lead ... a big step forward for us! Already Cooper's focus is hugely improved and he is responding positively to my voice cues and direction. Coops is working hard and also proving himself to be great with the other dogs!

We are both enjoying our group work this time and it is a lovely way for us to share one-to-time, while Cooper learns new skills, including how to play safely with other dogs. 

I am very glad I took the plunge to start doggy school again!

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My advice to anyone with a dog that needs training is firstly, don't be afraid to try more than one class to find the perfect situation for your dog's needs, as not all instructors have the same approach and neither do all dogs. 

Secondly, trust your own instincts. You know your dog best. If he isn't coping happily with a particular class, you may benefit from trying a different one.

Thirdly, if your dog is finding class too much to cope confidently with, take a step back, reassess his needs and build your training programme gradually in an environment your dog feels safe and confident in... you can always build on a sound foundation and think about classes again in the future.

Finally, classes aren't for everyone! They are great for some dogs and for some owners but not necessarily essential to achieving a polite, happy, confident dog. You can achieve those goals for your dog yourself  if you educate yourself thoroughly in positive training methods and take the time to understand your dog's specific learning needs.

Happy 9th Birthday Betty!

 

HAPPY 9TH BIRTHDAY BETTY!

It was Betty's 9th birthday yesterday and it only seems five minutes since I collected my sweet armful of puppy from the breeder. She was the smallest pup in a litter of seven and at that time was simply named 'dark pink', in view of a pink yarn collar her temporary mum had tied around her neck, to differentiate each pup from the other.

Polly, our older girl, took to little sister from day one, quickly teaching her how to 'tug' with a soft fleecey toy in the garden. By tea-time, Betty was following her big sister around happily and snoozing in the warmth of her side. The girls became firm friends and as she grew, Betty developed into a truly sweet-natured, funny girl, who loved to run, tug and play with her ball. She has always been a joyful dog, full of smiles and with heaps of love to share.

Unfortunately, as I have written in previous posts, Betty became seriously lame at the age of six after suffering cruciate ligament damage. It soon became clear that her future would be at risk if she didn't have major surgery to repair her hind leg, so she underwent a TPLO surgery. It was heartachingly gruelling, incredibly painful for her and yet, she put her trust in us to get her through, never complained and several months later, was able to run again... briefly. Sadly, the other hind leg then suffered the same catastrophic damage and there was no alternative, but to go through the process of major surgery all over again. Poor Betty. It was a horrible time for her. She endured the pain, confinement and long rehabilitation with grace, dignity and stoicism. I was so proud of her.

Both surgeries and rehab happened in 2020 and yesterday, four years later, we celebrated Betty's 9th birthday with a lively run on her favourite field. She may be considered a 'senior' dog at nine years of age but she still outruns our youngest dog Cooper, who isn't yet two!

Betty is the most gentle dog. I have never ever heard her growl or grumble; she has a beautiful sweet, loyal, nature, a wonderful sense of humour and a peaceful heart.

Wishing you fields to run in, balls to play with, sausage treats, ear strokes, interesting sniffs and love forever Betty Boo, you truly deserve the best of life because you are a very special girl... and we love you and your crazy Betty ears, very much! xxx

Happy 11th Birthday Polly!

 

HAPPY 11TH BIRTHDAY POLLY!

Time to wish my beautiful big girl Polly a very Happy 11th Birthday!

It seems to have been eleven years in a heart beat. Oh Polly, you have walked me through life every single day of your eleven years and have taught me so much.

We have walked many, many, miles together, in all weathers, met all manner of people, dogs and other animals, laughed together and barked together. There has never been a day when I didn't feel safer with you by my side and grateful for you. Age may be creeping up on us both a little nowadays and I know we share a few creaks from time to time, but we're both still young at heart, determined to make the most of all that life offers with us... and I am so very thankful for your friendship. 

Happy 11th Birthday my very special Big Girl, with all my love and the end of my bananas forever. xxx

Breed Specific Legislation, thoughts..

Anyone who has read my posts previously, will understand how much importance I have always placed on training my dogs, to give them the opportunity to run freely and socialise safely and responsibly, so that they are able to enjoy their very best dog life. 

With that in mind, here are my thoughts on the new Government Breed Specific Legislation for 'XL Bully types' that came into force today...

Cooper, Polly and Betty

We are saddened to say that today our Government's ban on 'XL Bully types' came into force. 

As an owner of large dogs, I have een interested to learn more about what has been imposed on the owners of these dogs and am horrified by the Government's inhumane and clumsy legislation which makes a sweeping ban on thousands of dogs who have never put a paw wrong in life. I fear it is inevitable that many rescue centre XL bullies (or bully 'types', whatever that may mean) will be euthanised, or dumped by frightened or uncaring owners as a result of this legal ban, based solely on the appearance of a dog.

Responsible owners of well behaved, obedience trained, XL bully 'type' dogs, are now legally obliged to muzzle their pets for life, neuter them and deny them any freedom to exercise properly, or socialise in public spaces, by keeping them on a short lead, stigmatising them and making them social lepers. Owners must also find almost £100 to register their loved dogs as 'dangerous' if they want to keep them safe from being snatched and destroyed by police, despite their dogs never have so much as growled at anyone. Tiny puppies must also be muzzled trained and kept under very secure conditions and these dogs will no longer be bred legally in the UK.

Legal exemption means owners may keep their loved family pets safe from euthanasia only if they have complied with the strictest of rules by today's date, however, their lives will forever be tightly restricted by doing so. No XL bully dogs may be rehomed or sold after today, meaning that if an owner dies for example, their dog must die too. Our Government has taken a decision that confuses and criminalises dog owners of this non-specific breed, based solely on their dog's appearance and a set of measurements, rather than on the dog's, or their owner's, behaviour. To me that feels very wrong. 

Great Britain has always been proud of its reputation as a dog loving country and I find this new legislation utterly shameful. It does not address irresponsible dog ownership, it does not address irresponsible breeders. It does not educate, it does not train. It is a reactive piece of legislation, heavily led by media scare-mongering. Out of control dogs can of course be dangerous and that must be addressed, but labelling every single dog of similar appearance as 'dangerous', simply because it measures similarly to a dog that has attacked, is as inadequate as labelling every human of a certain dress, or suit size a threat, simply because another human being of similar size has attacked someone.

This breed specific legislation brought heartache and unnecessary stress to a huge number of caring, responsible pet owners and I personally feel it is a very sad day for all responsible dog owners. 

A new home for Cooper

 

A NEW HOME FOR COOPER

A year ago, my husband and I drove to meet a lovely young man and his five and a half month old puppy, miles away, in a muddy field. The previous week, I had been thoroughly vetted both over the phone and online by the man's wife and had agreed that if all went well between our golden retriever Betty and their puppy Cooper, we would be able to offer their boisterous puppy a new home.

The young family, despite loving their boy dearly, recognised early on they were unable to fully meet the needs of such a lively young pup and felt he deserved a home better suited to his needs. They had adopted the puppy of their dreams with the best of intentions, in the hope that they would be able to train their new puppy as a therapy dog for their children... but sadly, the reality of puppy ownership when combined with parenthood, had proved much tougher than they realised.

We were smitten with Cooper at first sight and he was clearly excited to walk with us that first day, so we walked a circuit of the field together, letting the dogs find their way with one another. Halfway round, his owner invited my husband to take Cooper's lead and it was at that point I knew Cooper would definitely be coming home with us. We chatted and walked some more, then finalised details, put all his worldly belongings in the boot of our car and said a reluctant goodbye to his heartbroken owner, with both dogs safely fastened in the back seat of my car. Legal documents exchanged, we were now Cooper's legal owners... and as he walked away fighting back tears, it was clear to me his owner knew he had done the right thing by his young dog, despite it breaking his heart to let him go.

We headed home in the car, with our new lad and Betty sharing my lap on the back seat. The plan was to introduce Polly before dinnertime and begin what has since proved, a full on year of hard work, fun, laughter, obedience training and puppy chaos. Integrating Cooper has of course, been a challenge at times, but he was such a sweet boy from the start and always so eager to learn, I never doubted he would grow into a super dog. He settled in that first night without a whimper, happily bedding down with Polly and Betty before falling fast asleep in our bedroom.

Cooper has come such a long way during the past twelve months. He has worked hard with me to master walking on the lead and to recall when called, we also worked hard to help him learn to share toys and keep his feet firmly on the floor while I prepared food. There was and still is, much to teach... training simply becomes a way of life for dedicated owners, it never really ends. We are currently working on walking smartly to heel both on and off lead, cementing his recall in ever more distracting environments and learning to settle when asked so that we can eat our tea on trays if we chose to, without a nosey doggy nose in the mix! Cooper learns fast and is doing really well. As a bouncy lad he still occasionally jumps up when excited but is much improved and despite being a big boisterous boy, he is great with my grandchildren and they adore him. I mustn't take all the credit for his training though! Cooper's manners became far more polished he watched the girls and our clever lad has learned much from his new sisters. Polly and Betty love their cheeky little brother and after close supervision and continued training, our two cats accepted our new addition and now clearly feel safe around him. Cooper, now eighteen months of age, has become an important and very much loved member of our family.

If by some chance, Cooper's first owners ever read this post, I pray they see they chose his new owners well. We promised to do our best by Cooper when we adopted him and we promise to continue to do so forever. We are so grateful they trusted us with their beautiful puppy and hope they will be happy to hear about the progress he made with us over the past year. We understand how hard the decision was to rehome their puppy and would love them to know, they did the right thing in letting him join our family. Cooper is content, safe and above all, loved.

Yes, we love you Coops, mischief making, sock stealing and all!

Happy first gotcha day to you our sweet boy! ❤

Life's a beach

 

I set aside my teddy bear maker's stuffing stick yesterday and instead, headed to the coast with my husband and our dogs. It was a special treat for young Cooper in particular as he had never visited a beach before. After an hour in the car, he was super excited to play, so after a very pully walk from the carpark to the beach, we took the plunge, unclipped his lead and let Polly and Betty show their little brother the ropes!

They did a great job; Cooper was soon chasing happily with his big sisters, through gentle foamy waves along the shoreline, pulling out lengths of seaweed to sniff and generally having a whale of a time! By the time we left the beach our little mermaid Betty, had taught Cooper how to swim properly and they were both swimming side by side, with Betty shielding Cooper, clearly encouraging him back towards the safety of the shore whenever she felt he was drifting a little towards deeper waters.

It was such a joy watching all three dogs playing on the beach together and when it was time to head back, a quick peep on my whistle soon had three very soggy golden retrievers racing my way for a good shake (!) a piece of sausage and their leads back on. It was quite a warm day for a walk, about 25 degrees C, but regular dips in the sea along the trail ensured all dogs kept cool as we ambled along, enjoying a lovely sea breeze and the beautiful open scenery of Reculver Country Park.

Happy 1st Birthday Cooper!

 

We adopted Cooper six months ago, when a young family made the extremely tough decision that they wouldn't be able to give him the best start to life. With two young children, both of whom had learning challenges, they had underestimated the time and attention a new puppy requires and soon realised the timing to introduce an 8 week old puppy to their family, was not as ideal as they had first hoped.

I was thoroughly interviewed over a period of a week to be Cooper's potential new mum, then my husband and I met the owner face-to-face for final consideration. We took Betty with us to smooth the doggy introductions and went for a walk with Cooper and his owner... and of course, the rest is history! After an emotional handover, Coops was bundled in our car and travelled home on the back seat, cuddling me and Betty.

It wasn't all plain sailing at first; Cooper was a handful for the first couple of months while he settled in ... he was a very strong, large five and a half month old puppy and pulled like a steam train on the lead, was greedy with toys, chewed everything, jumped all over the furniture and to be frank, was also a bit of a bully with Betty and Polly. It was a natural response to what had been a huge upheaval for him, for the second time in his very young life.

We took a few deep breaths, stayed calm and consistent, focussing on the areas of training we felt would help Cooper best. Gradually, our lad calmed and learned to understand us... and in just six months, has completely settled, now transformed into a beautiful, gentle, affectionate, fun lad, who adores his big sisters and they him. We are so happy we were chosen to be Cooper's forever family.

Happy 1st Birthday to you dear Doops (not a typo, my nickname for him).

We love you dearly and can't imagine life without you now!

Our Golden Family

 

With three golden retrievers who soak up mud like sponges, I don't mind admitting that I am delighted we have at last exited the wettest of Winters and entered Spring... Winter was such hard work.

Little Cooper (right) is no longer little, in fact he grew like a mushroom through the Winter months and is now easily as tall as Betty (left)... I don't think it will be long before he overtakes both my girls. Since adopting him last November, he has settled happily into life with his two older sisters, teaching them both how to play like puppies again, even ten year old Polly! He is a cheeky lad, full of fun and mischief, but very loving and typical of most goldens, very eager to please. He is learning his manners and verbal cues well... although some of his puppy eagerness occasionally causes him to forget reign in his puppy excitement... but all in all, our lad is maturing beautifully and we have completely fallen in love with him.

Adopting a new pup created a few challenges along the way...mastering the three-dog-lead-walk took a while to establish but all now walk very politely together for me, which makes life so much easier. Teaching Cooper to recall safely was very important for his safety off-lead so I worked hard on achieving a solid response from him. However, it didn't occur to me that my previously well trained Betty might decide to push a few recall boundaries of her own as a reaction to having a new brother... dog training never ceases to throw up fresh challenges, no matter how much time and effort is put into it over the years!

Although Cooper and I joined a 'real life' training class, I soon came to the conclusion that it wasn't suitable for Cooper because it over stimulated him to the point of him being completely unable to calm himself enough to focus, so after several sessions, we withdrew from the group in favour of continuuing his training independently, which has proved to be the best decision for Cooper. He is now settled, working hard and enjoying his walks again.

Coops has also become firm friends with Stan, our cat... it took a while for them to sort themselves out because cats and dogs speak very different languages, but with time and close supervision, they worked out their differences and can now even be found curled up together on my bed from time to time... (despite my 'no dogs on beds' rule!)

I am sure many folk think I must be mad to own three dogs and two cats and they may have a point (!) ... but we love them all dearly and are very grateful for all the fun and love they so unconditionally share with us.  

Happy 8th Birthday Betty!

 

Betty, aged 8.

I remember introducing Betty on this blog as a brand new puppy back in 2015 and here we are, eight years on, wishing her a very Happy 8th Birthday... Time flies!

Betty has always been the sweetest natured of dogs, she is a gentle, loyal dog, whose biggest pleasure in life is to run like the wind. She is happiest in a huge field, bouncing through long grass like Tigger, so when her cruciate ligament first failed her back in 2020 and she became so lame she couldn't walk, I feared for her future. There was no option other than major surgery for Betty, so we placed our trust in her vet and as mentioned in earlier posts, agreed to TPLO surgery ... a surgery which involves sawing through the bone in her leg, then reconnecting it with some very clever metalwork. The recovery process is extremely painful and a careful programme of rehabilitation has to be implemented for months after surgery. Betty went through the entire process without complaint, patiently trusting us to help her regain use of her leg... it was a challenging process because she also developed an infection and had to be admitted back to doggy hospital for an extra few days as an emergency patient, but thankfully with great care from her vet and his team, she was soon back on the road to recovery. 

We were warned that the potential for second hind leg failure is high and sadly, found ourselves back at the specialist vet just three months after being successfully signed off from Betty's first surgery. All in all, Betty's full recovery from both surgeries, aged six, took about a year of careful rehabilitation, while we helped her to rebuild the strength and muscle wastage in both back legs. However, I am happy to say, that since then, there has been no looking back for our sweet girl and she is now back to running through fields of long grass, at full bounce!

I think it is fair to say that Betty's biggest challenge last year, was Cooper. She accepted him happily when we first adopted him, but soon found his youthful exhuberance, strength and puppy greed, completely overwhelming. Betty always loved to play with toys but Cooper decided that to establish his place in our family, he would claim all toys, bones and beds from poor Betty, bullying her like a naughty brother. Betty is such a gentle girl that she withdrew and unlike Polly, who is a far more determined, no-nonsense type of personality, Betty wouldn't stand her ground with him. There was no aggression in either dog fortunately, so I could see that with careful and consistent training we would be able to teach Cooper not to dominate Betty and happily, six months on, Betty and Cooper are now firm friends who love to bounce through the grass together. Cooper is learning to wait patiently for Betty to finish with bones and toys before taking them and Betty will now invite Cooper to play with her and share toys. It has been a challenge, but definitely one worth committing too. They love to run together and play together now ... I have even caught them sharing gentle kisses together on occasion!

Betty may be eight, but she still plays like a big daft puppy. Her surgeries gave her back her freedom to enjoy being a dog and also her future, as I am sure they helped save her life. 

Betty is a very special girl who truly deserves her Happy 8th Birthday.

We love you so much Bets, keep on running! xxx

Settling in

Cooper (left) Betty and Polly

In just four months since his arrival, Cooper, now aged 10 months, has made a huge amount progress. Our three dogs now accept one another fully, take turns, respect food bowls, sleep and play nicely together. They also walk pretty well on leads as a group and Cooper has just about mastered a loose lead.. (unless he is very excited, in which case he pulls like a tram but those times are becoming fewer thankfully.) I use head harnesses on our group walks, which when used properly, are a tremendous help.  In fact, we can't be doing too badly because one of my neighbours stopped us a couple of weeks ago and asked to take the photo below as she said the dogs looked fabulous! 

Lead walks

We also started 'Real Life' dog training classes recently, so hopefully, they will help me continue to refine Cooper's lead manners and he will enjoy meeting a range of other dogs, in interesting environments.

Real Life training

When we first rehomed Coops, I don't mind admitting it was impossible to walk all three dogs together because Cooper's pulling on the lead was so extreme but after battling on (using head harness and starting with tiny group lead walks, then building up time and distance gradually), we are now able to enjoy daily local walks as a family. Walking three dogs together has been a steep learning curve for me too! Coop's recall is progressing well, although like most goldens, he is super sociable so off lead recall from dog distraction can be a challenge but the best thing is, he now enjoys off lead fun every day and knows to come back to me when I whistle. 

Free running

At home Coops is a big character and loves his cuddles. He understands much of what I say and learns fast. He responds very well to positive redirection and as he still likes to steal stuff (lingerie, slippers, knitting!) and to chance his luck sometimes with counter surfing etc, plenty of redirection is still necessary! After a shaky start, Cooper and Stan (cat) have recently become friends and seem to enjoy hanging out together. Cooper is learning to restrain his exhuberance with Stan and Stan is very grateful for that! Naturally, I still keep them under close supervision.

Making friends with Stan

Introducing a lively young golden has been far from easy... but four months of hard work, patience and determination have paid off. Our lad Coops is a fab fun dog and has settled in with us beautifully. We feel as though he has always been part of our family and despite the chaos, we love him to bits!

Happy 10th Birthday Polly!

 

Polly, aged 10

It hardly seems possible that I have been writing this blog for ten years now! 

I first put virtual pen to keyboard, when we brought Polly home from the breeder, at seven weeks of age, a chunky bundle of palest golden fur, a puppy girl eager to explore her new world... our home. I wanted to record her progress and order my thoughts relating to what was to become our training journey and to share that journey with other new owners. It had been many years since I last adopted a puppy, so it was important to me to learn how to give Polly the opportunity to become her best doggy self and for me to become a good dog handler. In truth, I knew very little about dog training when Polly first came to us, but I was determined to learn.  I joined a training class when she was about six months old, read a stack of books... and so began our lifelong partnership.

I have often written about my 'bossy big bird' and so she is, a big Golden, with a beautiful dense coat. She is a proud showgirl, a head turner, a sturdy girl, who always makes me feel protected on walks. Now that she is ten years old, Polly is content to plod gently through the fields with me, less compelled than she once was, to run at Ferrari speed, like her namesake Dad, Xanthos Ferrari. Polly is settled, solid, comfortable and confident. She is a fabulous girl and at ten, still young at heart, playing daily with young Cooper and enjoying her crazy zoomies, like a puppy herself. She loves having the inside of her ears gently stroked and cheese... she really loves cheese!

Over the years, Polly has often led me a merry dance on walks but has also taught me so much. She has been the best dog training teacher I could ever have hoped for, never failing to show me clearly what works for her and what doesn't. She is a clever, loyal, determined girl, the matriach of my doggy family. Those Polly accepts and respects, will be her best friends for life, she knows who she is and expects others to understand that too. I love her sense of self, her sturdy countenance and her heart of pure gold, I loved her puppy daftness and if possible, I love her golden maturity even more. Yes, she barks, yes, she occasionally dislikes other dogs, but Polly is quite simply, my pride and my joy. She really is the best friend a girl could ever have.

Ten is an age to celebrate, a decade shared together, each and every single day. A decade of learning about one another and a decade of enjoying time with one another. Ten is also a benchmark age, a transition between taking each day for granted and a growing awareness that old age may not be as far away as once it was... 

Polly and I plan to continue playing, eating cheese, enjoying our walks and sharing our friendship well into the future and if our walks gradually become a little shorter as the years pass, well that's okay. Life is for living and living in the here and now, whatever the pace.

Happy 10th Birthday to my Big Bossy Bird, 

I love you so very much Polls. xxx 

A little Cooper update... he is seven months old, has been with us for 7 weeks now and is growing like a mushroom!

He's a lovely clever boy, gentle and learns fast. He has recently started dog school, which is going well. He and Polly (aged almost 10) play all day long (when they aren't napping together) so Betty has become a little bit of a spare wheel (poor Bets!) but she is coming round to her baby brother slowly ... they were caught exchanging gentle kisses yesterday, so I know they will be fine in the long run.

Bets has definitely had her doggy nose put out of joint and as she has such a gentle, nature, she won't challenge Cooper for time with Polly, or her toys, so I have had to do lots of work to teach Cooper to share ... he is understanding more and getting much better and loves to run with Betty (Polly prefers to plod) so they are bonding, but it is a gradual process. Lead walking three dogs has been hard work but after seven weeks of graft, we now have it looking pretty tidy and thanks to a waist belt and a longer lead for Polly to walk on the outside, we can at last walk from A to B in a straight line!

In the seven weeks he has lived with us Cooper has made new friends, been on lots of walks, mastered a good solid recall and visited his new vet. He has learned not to frighten our cats and is learning to take turns with Polly and Betty for treats and play... and he is slowly learning not to jump up. He has learned to wait at the door until he is invited outside and is starting to walk without pulling on the lead - that will take a while to cement.. he waits beautifully at kerbs until invited to cross roads and has mastered how to walk up and down steps with me safely. We are working on eliminating counter surfing and that is coming along nicely now after a challenging start! He no longer jumps on me in bed.. and instead now politely puts himself back to bed after his early morning walk with my husband. (Horaay!)

There is plenty still to teach but Cooper has worked hard and made a really great start to life with us!

PS: Don't let anyone convince you having three goldens is no more difficult than two ... so not true! 

Think three times more mud, more chaos, more expense, more space on pavements required, less space in car... and definitely at least three times more owner energy needed! 

Three goldens are a significant commitment.

 

Oops, we did it again!

 

Meet Cooper, our latest family member. 

Yes, we did it again!

Sometimes, after serious and prolonged consideration, there is a moment in time when all the stars align and the puzzle pieces slot most perfectly into place... and for us, that time occurred last weekend.

We had been thinking about whether we could offer a home to one more golden puppy before time and energy required would become too demanding. With our sixtieth birthdays on the horizon and it being nine years since we adopted Polly and seven years since Betty came home, we were aware our puppy clock was ticking. The tick became louder and louder as the months of 2022 tocked by and we watched so many sad faces online, many of them unwanted post lockdown pups, unsold litters and strays... all carrying the saddest of tales deep inside them. It was heartbreaking to see and weighed heavily on my mind.

The plight of Britain's rescues is overwhelming this year. So many puppies were adopted during the pandemic lockdowns and have since been discarded when owners realised they hadn't planned far enough into the future for their puppies. Rescues have always tried to rehome strays of course, but after the pandemic, the world has been in turmoil for humans which of course, has had an immense impact on domestic dogs. We were close to visiting a canine rescue centre recently when I spotted a private advertisement and everything fell into place for us...

We knew what taking on a rescue would have entailed as we have been heavily involved with my daughter's Ukrainian rescue and her rehabilitation over the past year. It has been an intensive process to provide Olive with a sense of trust, security and well-being and thankfully, she is now living her best life in the countryside with my daughter. Polly and Betty have been superstars with Olive from the start and we didn't doubt they would be so again, but Polly's advancing years also needed fair consideration in our own process, so after much thought, we ruled out adopting a rescue dog as we felt it wouldn't have been right for us all as a family at this point in our life.

Five month old Cooper wasn't a rescue, in fact he was very much loved and wanted by his owners but sadly, they had a young family with very specific needs and the puppy adoption they carefully planned for, simply wasn't living up to the dream they had hoped for. After recognising their new pup's needs, as well as the needs of their children, they made the toughest of decisions, to find Cooper the very best of homes and provide him with the life he needed rather than compromise his future. To cut a long story short, my husband and I were selected to talk further with them and after a very thorough exchange of information, which took several days to complete, we were invited to meet Cooper... then by tea time that day, we were home again and introducing Polly and Betty to their new brother!

It has been a whirlwind of a week. The girls have been as amazing as I knew they would and Cooper settled in with them straightaway, thrilled to have two new playmates. There have been a few challenges of course ... to start with, it has been seven years since Betty was a puppy and I had almost forgotten how exhausting new parenthood is, which of course, is why I didn't want to put off a new addition for too much longer. Cooper is a lovely gentle boy most of the time but like all pups coming into adolescence, he has a couple of wild times each day, usually after eating. As he has been an only dog during since leaving his littermates, he hasn't yet learned to properly regulate his play behaviours and can be quite a handful for Polly and Betty on occasion as he is a big strong pup ... almost as big as Betty already! However, they are coping pretty well overall. 

Polly plays enthusiastically with Cooper despite her age and has put him in his place a couple of times but my Betty is more sensitive and at the moment, takes cover by my side whenever Cooper is at his most puppy wild. She is definitely a little more wary and capitulates to him over toys, bones, time with me etc. I am sure her confidence will return with a little encouragement, so am giving her extra praise, fuss and time with me. After just a few days and implementing a couple of firm 'time outs', Cooper does show signs of regulating his own excitement levels, so I am confident he will soon learn to play more politely, as he is a clever boy. He is also excited by toys and bones, preferring to gather them to himself and stealing them from Betty.. there is no aggression in it, just playfulness but of course, it is frustrating for Betty as she too enjoys play with toys and isn't the kind of dog to challenge, so I have been using a clicker to teach turn taking with all three dogs and that looks promising already.

The other main challenge to overcome with this gorgeous new pup will be lead walking three dogs together. Never trust anyone who tells you it is as easy to walk three as it is to walk two ... oh no it isn't! I gave it a go earlier in the week and despite Polly and Betty being well trained to walk to heel, it was very hard work with a pup who hasn't yet been. So, back to basics! I will be booking training classes so Coops and I can focus on this together. I will also walk him separately at times, or with just one of the girls for the time being. A little mix and match with walks should work well and will also give Polly and Betty an opportunity to continue with their pre exisiting routine together on some days, which I think will be important for them. I think they are entitled to a puppy break now and again. Fortunately Cooper seems to enjoy an evening walk, so on some days, we can all walk together in the dark, when I have a spare of hands to take some of the weight off my hands.

On the plus side, we are fortunate that Cooper has already been housetrained and will ask to go outside to toilet. He also came with a pre-programmed sit, which is rather lovely to see and sleeps through the night. After some long line training at our local park this week, he is already beginning to grasp a whistle recall too and is learning to 'drop' toys on request, eat at his own bowl while the girls eat at theirs and not pester the cats... all good building blocks for his future training.

Adopting Cooper is a significant transition for us all at this stage, but it is also a complete joy to share our lives with this lively, funny, clever, golden puppy. I will be dusting off my old puppy training skills in the hope I can help Cooper become a credit to his big sisters over the months and years ahead...should be great fun!

Welcome home Cooper!